A CHAMPION'S GUIDE TO XI COMMON PROBLEMS
Written by Leonardo Delizo, PhD, MSBA
PART X HOW TO GET ALONG WITH PEOPLE
1. Like. If you genuinely like people, like to be with them, like to talk with them, and like to be helpful to them, you will find that people generally will like you. When mutual liking exists, people get along with one another.
2. Interest. Always be interested in the other person’s activities and ideas. Direct conversation to the other’s interests rather than talking about yourself. If you are absorbed in another’s interests, he will become attentive yours and you will have a pleasant time together.
3. Likeable. To be liked and to get along with others it's necessary to be a likeable person. Practice the old saying, “To have friends, be friendly.”
4. Names. Practice the art of remembering names. To accomplish this, give attention to the other person so that his name will register. Realize that a person’s name is important to him, so remembering names will help you get along.
5. Easy. Be easy to get along with. Be a comfortable sort of person, so that there is no strain in being with you. Be an “old shoe” kind of individual. Be homey, down-to-earth.
6. Stimulating. Cultivate the quality of being stimulating. If being with you makes people feel better and more alive, you will be sought after and your personal relations will be excellent.
7. Scratchy. Personal relations deteriorate when a person has scratchy elements in the personality. That is to say, do not rub people the wrong way. Be relaxed and affable.
8. Sensitive. Avoid being on edge and sensitive so that you are easily hurt. People instinctively shy away from the super-sensitive for fear of arousing an unpleasant reaction. Avoid the temptation to react with hurt feelings, and you will get along with people.
9. Heal. Sincerely attempt to heal on an honest basis every misunderstanding that you may have with others. Mentally and spiritually drain off your grievances and maintain an attitude of good will with everyone.
10. Do. Love people and do things for them. Perform unselfish and outgoing acts of friendship. Such sincere self-giving inevitably leads to pleasant personal relations. It is all summed up in a familiar Scripture admonition: “Do for others what you want them to do for you” (Matt. 7:12, TLB).
Source: Norman Vincent Peale
Written by Leonardo Delizo, PhD, MSBA
PART X HOW TO GET ALONG WITH PEOPLE
1. Like. If you genuinely like people, like to be with them, like to talk with them, and like to be helpful to them, you will find that people generally will like you. When mutual liking exists, people get along with one another.
2. Interest. Always be interested in the other person’s activities and ideas. Direct conversation to the other’s interests rather than talking about yourself. If you are absorbed in another’s interests, he will become attentive yours and you will have a pleasant time together.
3. Likeable. To be liked and to get along with others it's necessary to be a likeable person. Practice the old saying, “To have friends, be friendly.”
4. Names. Practice the art of remembering names. To accomplish this, give attention to the other person so that his name will register. Realize that a person’s name is important to him, so remembering names will help you get along.
5. Easy. Be easy to get along with. Be a comfortable sort of person, so that there is no strain in being with you. Be an “old shoe” kind of individual. Be homey, down-to-earth.
6. Stimulating. Cultivate the quality of being stimulating. If being with you makes people feel better and more alive, you will be sought after and your personal relations will be excellent.
7. Scratchy. Personal relations deteriorate when a person has scratchy elements in the personality. That is to say, do not rub people the wrong way. Be relaxed and affable.
8. Sensitive. Avoid being on edge and sensitive so that you are easily hurt. People instinctively shy away from the super-sensitive for fear of arousing an unpleasant reaction. Avoid the temptation to react with hurt feelings, and you will get along with people.
9. Heal. Sincerely attempt to heal on an honest basis every misunderstanding that you may have with others. Mentally and spiritually drain off your grievances and maintain an attitude of good will with everyone.
10. Do. Love people and do things for them. Perform unselfish and outgoing acts of friendship. Such sincere self-giving inevitably leads to pleasant personal relations. It is all summed up in a familiar Scripture admonition: “Do for others what you want them to do for you” (Matt. 7:12, TLB).
Source: Norman Vincent Peale
